How to Choose a Casual Dating Site

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So you’ve made up your mind to engage in a bit of casual dating. You’ve read all the advice and warnings, the etiquette guides and the does and don’ts. You’re ready. So, how do you choose the first casual dating site to join?

What Sort of Relationship?

First, determine what kind of relationship you are looking for before visiting any dating services. Casual dating to ease you back into the dating market? Adult dating, with no strings attached? Any sexually specific activity from flavours of S&M, through to hard-core bondage, submission, dressing up, infantilism, uniforms, older partners, younger partners, etc? If one or more types of site interest you, make a note of that.


Next, create a list of things that you are looking for in a relationship, mate, date or sexual partner. Do they have to be a certain height, racial background/ethnicity, have similar interests, be of a certain intelligence level (you might have a need to talk between sexual bouts), live nearby or not, be open to dating a single parent, or speak a certain language? There are dating services that cater to pretty much all of these needs and some more generic sites will cover them in forums. A good casual dating site will contain a wide range of people, with a wide range of tastes, so don’t feel you have to join a site specific to one particular proclivity.


The next step is to decide on a price range you want to abide by when searching the dating services for your partner in casual experiences. There are several excellent free casual dating sites out there, but sometimes the added perks and membership numbers of the larger, more expensive dating services are worth the cost. Either way, have a monthly amount you are willing to spend in mind.

Narrow It Down

Are there any online casual dating sites that you’ve heard great things about and want to explore? Have friends told you to steer clear of any particular dating services? If so, adjust your criteria list. Create a list of potential online dating services to review.

Most sites won’t let you in without registering but the commitment is normally low for a quick look and see. Use online resources to see what other people are saying about a site. Which on those on your list offer you the most options in the criteria important to you? Put these dating services at the top of your list. Any dating services that are too expensive, don’t have a lot of people in your geographic area or age range, or offer few matching options should be removed completely.

Have A Good Look Round

Don’t get too excited by a rash of emails when you first join. Take your time, look around, and see what others are doing. Women can sometimes register for nothing at a casual dating site, which is an ideal way for them to decide where they feel most comfortable. Men should spend plenty of time looking around before shelling out. Go for bigger name sites with sound reputations, like or Look at activity and explore the site as much as you can. After a week or so, you’ll notice that you spend more time at one or two online dating services. Maybe they are easier to use, quickest with response times, have a plethora of people to choose from, or offer many of the features you need. Whatever the reason, you’ll know within the week which dating services to invest more time into. If not return to the list and start again!

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